The Blind Leading the Seeing: A Path to Self-Reflexivity

Abstract

Humans attempt to control the uncertainty of life by creating expectations. The construction of expectations is not foolproof, as uncertainty may be re-created when expectations do not match actualities. Ambiguity resulting from such a mismatch may be approached intolerantly, where individuals may create ‘false clarity’ through dichotomizing—shutting out information that does not match expectations. This intolerant process is particularly problematic when expectations for the self are violated, causing intolerance to be turned inward. In such instances, individuals may shut out aspects of the self that do not fit with expectations. Over many instances, intolerance can create a self that is also more a ‘false clarity’ than a real being. It is suggested that intolerance and the corresponding negative impact on the self can be avoided through the use of minimally binding expectations. Such expectations are hyper-flexible and thwart the construction of ambiguity by accommodating unexpected information rather than rejecting it. The concept of fate is an example of a minimally binding expectation. Bringing fate into meaning-construction about the self limits intolerant processes, thus promoting self-reflexivity. The self becomes less a falsehood created through intolerance and more an authenticity based on tolerance.