Parents With Advanced Cancer: Worries About Their Children’s Unspoken Concerns

Abstract

Background: Parents with advanced cancer struggle initiating conversations with their children about the cancer. When parents do not have the tools to talk with their children, they silently watch their children attempt to navigate their illness but can only wonder but not know what their children are thinking. The objective of the current study is to describe, from parents living with advanced cancer, the worries and concerns parents wonder their child holds, but has not spoken, about the parent’s cancer. Methods: Twenty-seven parents with incurable cancer enrolled in a 5 session telephone intervention pilot study during which they were asked, “What questions do you have about what your child is thinking or feeling about the cancer?” Data were transcribed and inductively coded using content analysis methods adapted from grounded theory. Results: Analysis yielded 14 categories of parent concerns organized into 6 larger conceptual domains: Being Concerned and Scared about My Cancer; Worrying about Me; Changing How We Talk and Live Day-to-Day; Not Knowing What Will Happen; Having Unanswered Questions about My Cancer; and Understanding My Disease Is Terminal. Conclusions: Study results add to our understanding of the magnitude of the emotional burden parents with advanced cancer carry as they struggle to balance their diagnosis and treatment and their life as parents.