Till Death Do Us Part?: Exploring the Social Convoys of Conjugally Bereaved Women

Abstract

Abstract Objectives The hierarchical mapping technique (HMT) is used to study social convoys, peoples’ support systems. Recent research integrating the HMT and the continuing bonds framework suggests that deceased persons may be influential convoy members. Extending this idea, the current study aimed to gain insight regarding how older conjugally bereaved women view the role of a deceased romantic partner in their convoy. Methods The study utilized a qualitative descriptive approach. Twenty heterosexual women (mean age = 78 years, range = 65–93 years), recruited via social media and snowball sampling, participated in one 90-min interview. Each discussed their bereavement journey and completed an HMT diagram to comment on how, if at all, their deceased romantic partner was part of their social convoy and their place within it. Results Fifteen of the 20 women placed the deceased in the innermost circle of the diagram, with them yet separate from other convoy members. Thematic analysis of transcripts revealed 5 major themes: “We’re part of each other,” “I think he supports me,” “He would want me to be happy,” “I just feel so grateful,” and “I think about him every day but I don’t talk about him every day.” Discussion Perceptions that deceased romantic partners continue to play a key role in conjugally bereaved older women’s lives offer researchers the unique opportunity to examine how loss is carried into old age. Furthermore, this study may assist with the development of interventions that destigmatize continuing bond expressions for conjugally bereaved heterosexual women.