Some Aspects of the Elderly Widow(er)'s Persistent Tie with the Deceased Spouse

Abstract

An elderly widow(er) often carries deep attachments to the deceased spouse. Elements of grief persist over many years. In spite of the loss, separation, and grief, five themes of the marital tie continue throughout widowhood: caring–an affirmation of continuing affection; intimacy–a unique sharing and sense of mutual importance; family feeling–a deep sense of biological kinship and bondedness; commitment–intended continuity of the relationship; and reciprocal identity support–each is defined and confirmed by the other. A sense of home is also a mechanism in maintaining the bond. These themes may persist to provide continuing comfort and support to the widow(er).