Relationship of Self-Compassion and Divorce Readiness in Women Submitting Divorce Lawsuit in Surabaya Religious Courts

Abstract

Background. The higher increase in divorce each year are often triggered by prolonged marital conflict without a complete settlement, of which 70% occurred due to divorce by wives with primary reason is disharmony. The divorce decision often made without proper preparation, lead to a bad impact on later life. Self-compassion involved in producing a firmness choices supported by self-confidence and lack of ambivalence in the decision to divorce.Objective. To analyze the relationship between self-compassion with the female complainant divorced readiness in the Religious Court Surabaya.Methods. The study analytic correlation with cross sectional design using systematic random sampling and research instruments using the Self-Compassion Scale (SCS) to assess self-kindness, self-judgment, common humanity, isolation, mindfulness, over-identification, as well as Divorce Readiness Questionnaire (Gregg) and a culture questionnaire to assess the readiness of divorce.Results. There were 46 study subjects met the inclusion criteria. Pearson Correlation Test declare that self-compassion had no correlation with the readiness of divorce (p = 0.083, Gregg, and p = 0.259, culture).Conclusion. There is no relationship between self-compassion with a divorced readiness. Timing of research (timing) and external factors (Javanese culture) more strongly affect the subject of research for the time being, thus making the correlation was not significant.