Self‐concealment, secrecy, and guilt

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AbstractObjectiveIndividuals with a tendency to conceal unflattering information about themselves are more likely to be preoccupied by their secrets and tend to report more negative affect. According to theory, this negative affect is due to self‐concealers' conflicting motivation to be authentic in their relationship but fear the negative consequences should they reveal their secrets, which promotes ill‐fated attempts to suppress. The purpose of the current study was to test a central component of this model.MethodsTwo studies of adults who were in a romantic relationship and keeping a secret from their partner (combined N = 635; 67.2% women; Mage = 39.6, SD = 11.9) were surveyed on four biweekly occasions. Multilevel mediation analyses were conducted to test whether preoccupation and suppression mediated the link between self‐concealing and negative affect and guilt.ResultsThe data support the hypotheses. Self‐concealers were more preoccupied with and prone to suppress their secret than those low on the trait, which, in turn, predicted greater negative affect and guilt.ConclusionThe findings suggest that self‐concealers' insecurities and fear of the relational consequences of disclosure set the stage for the debilitating cycle of suppression and preoccupation that leaves them feeling anxious and guilty.