Developing Parenting Guidelines to Support Transgender and Gender Diverse Children’s Well-being

Abstract

OBJECTIVES Parents and caregivers’ responses to their child’s gender identity or expression play a pivotal role in their mental health. Despite increasing visibility of transgender and gender diverse (TGD) children, few scientific resources exist to advise their parents and caregivers. METHODS We used an online Delphi study to generate expert consensus. Expert adult participants (N = 93; 55% cisgender women, 12% cisgender men, 33% gender minority; 83% White race or ethnicity) rated statements describing parenting strategies compiled from a systematic search of community-generated online literature. Participants represented 3 distinct “panels” of expertise: parents and caregivers of a TGD child, TGD persons, and/or professionals working with TGD populations. Statements rated as essential or important by 80% to 100% of each panel were endorsed as a guideline. Three rounds of surveys were used with iterative feedback to develop consensus. RESULTS Of 813 total statements, only 125 were endorsed by all 3 panels. Key domains of consensus included: supportive strategies for parents (eg, open communication, listening), behaviors to avoid (eg, pressuring a child into a gender transition), strategies for navigating healthcare and school systems, and common responses for parents (eg, confusion). Areas of disagreement, in which professional and TGD panels concurred but the parent panel did not, included whether to allow gender identity experimentation during childhood, the value of providing access to gender diverse media, and how to avoid misgendering a child. CONCLUSIONS These consensus-based guidelines offer a unique and needed resource for parents and caregivers and clinicians and can be used to promote the mental health and well-being of TGD children.